Let me bring you a principle that I stand by quite firmly: “You have to take care of yourself in order for you to take good care of your children”. I think all the mothers out there have heard that they should incorporate me-time in their day or even in their week. But what does this actually mean and how do you DO that?
Being a mother is not a piece of cake. You’re taking care of little humans. Humans with their personalities, their needs, and their feelings. And those apples of your eyes need to be guided to what’s good for them, in any aspect. That’s quite a responsibility and this takes a lot of effort and time. Don’t get me wrong on this, it’s so much fun to stand by their sides, cheering them on and correcting them wherever they need it.
But no unhappy coach ever had a happy team
I’ve noticed that if I’m feeling good in my skin, I’m a better mother to my daughters. Feeling good in your skin doesn’t mean that you’re having a good day because bad days do happen. It means that you’re feeling satisfied with YOUR needs. I’m really trying to make these periods last, and I’ve noticed that what helps me, are habits that I’ve incorporated in my life as well as taking efforts that benefit me in the long run. I hope these tips will help you as well!
Take up a hobby
Find a hobby that ignites a spark in you. Learn a skill that you’ve always wanted to learn and try to make time for this learning process. Taking up a hobby relieves stress and helps your brain stay active (yes, even if you’re “just” crafting). To make this more fun you could look for someone who has the same interests as you have and would like to hobby with you. If you’re clueless about what kind of hobby you should take; I’ve written a list of 50 hobbies that you could try out today!
Another way to keep your brain active is to learn something about a subject that you’re interested in. Whether you’re taking a course or just reading a book. I myself love to read about (mental) health, self-improvement, and parenting. Every time I learn something new, I feel inspired and motivated.
Find a quiet time in the day
Whether this is in the morning, evening or during nap time, find yourself a (short) period of time where you can drink a cup of tea and have the room to yourself.
Have fun with your kids
For me, this falls under self-care as well. Bonding with your little ones is so satisfying and rewarding at the same time. Plan some activities that you and your kids enjoy and just have a good laugh with them. This one is truly my favorite. There’s nothing more dear to me than seeing my daughters laugh and having fun. This is a huge stress reliever for me as well!
Socialize (with other moms)
This one is important! We, humans, are social creatures, so we need to get out and be social! Seriously, find some (mom) friends with whom you can meet up once in a while. If they have kids, you could take yours with you and arrange a play date for them.
“I’m busy, I don’t have time to relax or take care of myself!”
Yes, this thought sounds familiar to me as well. If you’re a busy mom, you have to make effort to find free time so you can do the things that you love to do. In my case, it’s the early mornings. I love the silence and the peace of an early morning, so I have to make sure that I get up earlier than my kids do. Also, in the early morning, I find myself to be the most productive with my time. So if I want to study, read, write or whatever I’d like to do, I get the most out of these mornings. If you also would love to get up early in the morning, but you struggle with the “getting up”-part, I’ve shared my 7 tips in this blog post.
What do you do to take care of yourself as a mom? I’d love to know!